Motels - Highway Stop Overs

Someone once said, 'The road is always better than the motel.' It's a sentiment that, upon reflection, unlocks a profound truth about a life well-lived. In my youth, like many, I chased aspirations, believing that reaching them would bring lasting satisfaction. But I soon learned that life is a continuous pursuit. Each achieved goal, a 'motel,' offers only a brief respite, a temporary pause on the endless road of self-fulfillment.

True creative living thrives on motion, on constant movement away from stagnation. The journey itself, the very act of trying, is where the true happiness lies. As an amateur photographer (see: JPLlorca), the thrill isn't the albums or gallery display, but the moment of capturing the perfect shot. For me as a geologist, this road has taken many forms – the field exploration of minerals, the geological search and researches of precious metals, the countries and places visited, the people and multi-cultural experiences, and the lecture platform. Each 'motel' along these paths offered a moment for reflection, but also served as a springboard for new adventures.

The beauty of this journey is amplified when we travel not just through the external world, but also within the landscapes of our minds and spirits. We must diligently clear the dead ends of negativity, ensuring our internal compass points towards growth. The anticipation of self-fulfillment, the unwavering belief in our potential, transforms the road ahead into a vista of boundless possibility. Each step, each challenge overcome, strengthens the prospect of our greatest achievement.

Onion Skinned?

In today’s social media freedom, we know that some people are easily offended by perceived slights, requiring others to constantly monitor their words and actions.  This hypersensitivity often stems from low self-esteem.  Those with a fragile sense of self interpret seemingly innocuous remarks or actions as personal attacks, while individuals with healthy self-esteem are generally unfazed by such perceived slights.  Even genuine criticism, though potentially painful, has a far less devastating impact on someone with a strong sense of self-worth.  Conversely, those plagued by self-doubt and insecurity are prone to jealousy and perceive threats to their ego where none exist, often exaggerating the impact of even legitimate criticism.

Just as our physical bodies need the protective layer of skin, so too do our egos require a degree of resilience.  While a completely impenetrable shell would be detrimental, preventing us from experiencing the world fully, a lack of any protective layer leaves us vulnerable.  Many people navigate life with an overly sensitive "ego skin," reacting strongly to even minor perceived offences. They need to develop emotional resilience – a thicker "skin" – to deflect petty slights and perceived threats.

This resilience is built through cultivating self-esteem and developing a more positive self-image.  A physically strong person is less threatened by minor dangers than a weaker individual.  Similarly, a strong ego, bolstered by healthy self-esteem, is less likely to be threatened by innocent remarks or actions.  By building self-esteem, individuals can develop the emotional fortitude needed to navigate social interactions with greater confidence and less vulnerability.